Heads or Tails? Have you ever been tortured, and ended on a decision you might want a single currency for a quick yes or no answer flip? Or do you even begin to turn their thumbs and hoping no one notices is stalled? Some decisions about life and the consequences of death, and some are even more important.
Influence of education, career and marriage decisions in the course of our lives. The character and mental capacity may be a distant implications of flow. HardCan make decisions and too complicated to frustrate us. But just to be an important decision for a solution, and may also be the worst choice.
Here are some common sense strategies that can help overcome an overwhelming selection.
1. Seek wisdom.
These include prayer, study of the subject in the Scriptures and seeking wise counsel throughout the process.
Those who believe in God and know the power of prayer, because this first step. Sometimes thereTime to do something else.
George Evans, a retired engineer, tells of a time was between jobs and prayed for God's help for a good find. He made an appointment to the tip of a company, which he considered to be justified.
"We went together to the parking lot, and asked me to return as we walked in," Evans said. The owner offered him a job on the spot: the complete restoration of the Statue of Liberty before the celebration of the bicentennial of the United States administration1976!
"I prayed about it," said Mr. Evans, but his response was immediately necessary, could not pass through other formal actions. For him, this was a clear answer to prayer.
Other decisions have a clear answer in the Bible. If someone asks you for a loan CoSign Proverbs 6:1-5 is a warning. If sales manager, you want the shadow of truth in order to make more sales, the Bible tells us decided not to lie (Exodus 20:16, Revelation 21:8), although exactly what to say or notsay sales are intended to seek further wisdom.
The Bible calls seeking advice. For decisions spiritual minister to find a wise, biblically sound. For financial advice, looking for someone trained and experienced in the field, and to ensure that they are in a conflict of interest, which has something to sell. The temptation was too great to try to fit a square into a round hole instrument.
2. Of course, the problem of the State / opportunities.
In general, this means that the problem from all sides, collecting the largest possible number of relevant facts, then falls for groped to isolate the key issue.
The specification of the problem is often half the battle. It is difficult to point to a fuzzy, but when the bull's eye identified to increase your chances of success.
State of the problem is taken into consideration: How important is it? A critical decision deserves a significant investment in research and time, while aDaily decision, not so much.
What blind spots can be clearly seen the situation? For important decisions, the advice from someone you trust, but can not do the same. In the biblical story of Exodus, Moses was the father only '-in-law of Moses, seeing one day to observe the long lines of people judge who is not a long term solution. "You and these people who are probably also bring with you," he said of Moses (Exodus 18:18).
SeeSituation and the solution proposed by the father-in-law of Moses eye helped avoid premature burnout.
3. What would be the ideal result look like?
To think that in the context of your mission, values and goals.
It is possible in the real world, you need to consider the ideal solution. Reality determines the decision-making, as art of the possible. But for the important decisions, who will marry, if you go to church, where you work, where youLive-why not the time to get the best possible result? One that meshes with your mission in life, your divine values, and your personal goals?
Aim high!
4. Brainstorming for options.
Your research and thinking at this point, probably, have identified several options. But often with difficult decisions, it is good for your mind and you could win your family, friends and experts in finding a few more. Or seemingly impossible scenarios in which it is necessaryCreate some options where there previously.
However, studies show, we can be stressed by too many choices, so there is no need to invent more options for good measure.
About Options: In a crisis, we can not have many or few. But a proactive approach to life planning, goal setting and regulates the development of skills gives us more options.
"To be happy, you need skills." That is, as Dr. David Campbell, a classic in its orientation, If You Do not KnowWhere to, probably end up elsewhere. If luck describes the probability that a good result, so the choice of a variety of useful skills to develop actually increase your happiness.
5. Klug weigh options.
How do you compare your choices? Only 16 percent of Americans on the basis of moral decisions of the Bible, according to a 2005 study by the Barna Group. Whoever does, however, have an easier way to compare it.
Some options are easily removed ifagainst the laws of God or are obviously unlikely to achieve the desired result. After deleting these, hopefully, some options are still available (if you can not, you probably need to check these ones, or to brainstorm a little ').
Weigh the pros and cons of each option. For a decision to attend college in order to, for example, you can use a table to compare the options for college in high up to factors such as:
The strength of the academic program in your area.
Faculty student ratio orOf students per class.
Cost / financial aid package.
Distance from home, etc.
Heather, 18, as many universities in their junior year of high school, but has reduced to two good public schools near their home in Ohio. He looked through the stacks of brochures, the beautiful was always around the country, but she said: "I knew it has changed my opinion, unless they offered me a full circle."
Often, the complexity and number of the factors involved may be dueAnalysis paralysis. Here, too, as consultants advice can give new perspectives or reinforce your feelings at this stage.
6. Opt.
For many of us, which is the hardest part. The last five steps can not be a clear winner. If you are unsure, it is easy to do nothing. Decision is not in itself a decision, and usually not the best.
Erica, 15, said: "The biggest problem I see people who decide that other people dotheir thoughts for them. "
If two options are equally good and trusted advisors are divided, may ask, go with your intuition, or even tossing a coin.
One of the major problems associated with decisions is essentially moral choices times. What is the ideal time to make a decision on a possible problem? Before the problem occurs.
This preparation permits "to identify the potential temptations, weaknesses, vices," Fatal Attractions "blind spots, desire, addiction, etc., andYou will be able to take a proactive action plan that you can not, for whatever reason, deviate to develop in the face with temptation, or other attractive alternatives or options "(Ken Lindner, Crunch Time: Eight Steps to take Life right decisions at the right time, 1999, p. 166).
7. By
Once you have decided to develop an action plan and a list of terms and initiatives. No matter how much time we spent deciding, we are able to have cold feet.
To be effective,We have received in the past. Decision-making expert David A. Welch said: "My colleague was among the offers of admission at Harvard University and the University of Chicago to vote." Relax, "said his mentor." No matter what you choose, you regret it. "There is timeless wisdom in taking this position. And 'almost always possible to regret our decisions, why not address the consequences of the alternatives that we can live. You easily persuaded to assume that there would bebetter if we chose otherwise. In most cases, but there is no good reason to believe that "(Decisions, Decisions: The Art of Effective Decision Making, 2002, pp. 44-45).
If it becomes clear that there are, of course, you can price corrections. When we made the wrong decision, we are able to go through the process again, factoring in new insights we have learned.
What decisions you will face, can become a good and effective ones that you on the way, the will of Godis for you. For more background information on our biblical God-given mission in life and how we see our objectives, download, or request the free booklet What is your destiny to achieve? life and work.
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